Do you want to know how to achieve everything that you desire?

Stop complaining.

I only know this, because I was a complainer. So, I had to learn this lesson the hard way.

First off, admitting that I was a complainer was difficult. It wasn’t that obvious. It was more internal for me.

Basically, I spent most of my life complaining in my mind and sometimes to others about what was missing. Sure, it’s not the only thing I thought about, but it was a big part.

Missed opportunities, lost money, time wasted, under valuing myself, playing small, not fully expressing my gifts, and worst of all talking over and over about my struggles of wanting something more expansive.

There have been so many iterations about what I’ve complained about throughout the years. Not having a fuller practice, a bigger house, more money, a nicer car, better shoes (haha just kidding shoes aren’t my thing), spiritual goals, more friendships, longer relationships, and lots more.

When I started Higher Practice there was a need to reach more people, impact more of the world, grow a business. Sure they were great desires. But I definitely complained about learning all the details of growing and scaling a company, the amount of long hours as a startup, taking responsibility for the risks involved, etc.

You get the picture.

But here’s what I’ve finally learned and fully understand about attaining desires.

  1. Never make them wrong if they come from a place of integrity. (ok…cool… a lot of self-helpers will tell you this one)
  2. STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT WHAT’S MISSING IN YOUR LIFE. FOREVER. (not so many are willing to tell you about this one)
  3. Focus all of that incredible potential energy into creating. (the few that make it this far are pretty excited to share about because this new way of being in the world will get you what you want)

If you continue to place any energy on what you don’t have, the only thing you are going to get is more of what you don’t have.

I know it’s nice to vent once in awhile. Obviously, that’s not what I’m talking about here. It’s the tendency toward complaining in our minds that keeps us from attaining our potential.

Complaining is a sneaky complex in the mind. It can show up in ways that looks like introspection and thoughtfulness, but really just keeps you moving at a slow pace.

So, just imagine if you were a laser beam and pointed all of that energy right at a specific goal…what would you be doing right in this moment?

This is a call to action. I’m done complaining. What about you?

Whether it’s about building a private practice, growing a larger company, leaping into the unknown in a life transition, tending to your family, forming a new relationship, moving to a new city, sitting on a meditation cushion, going to the gym, changing your career, or whatever desire feels true, go after it.

You will only know what you’re truly capable of, if you can stop complaining and start creating.


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Keith Kurlander

Keith Kurlander is the founder of Higher Practice, a company dedicated to helping therapists achieve their highest potential in private practice. He has two decades of combined experience in business administration, group facilitation, teaching at the undergraduate and graduate level, yoga instruction and as a licensed professional counselor in private practice.

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